You and your spouse have decided to call it quits. However, that does not necessarily mean you are up for an end-of-marriage war. In your mind, the sooner you can get divorced and move on with your life as peacefully as possible, the better.

Fortunately, divorce mediation may make this possible for you. Here is a glimpse at what you can expect from this alternative to conventional divorce litigation in Minnesota.

What is divorce mediation?

During this type of alternative dispute resolution process, you and your soon-to-be ex will address your divorce-related disputes with the help of a trained neutral third party known as the mediator. Divorce mediators are generally individuals who are patient, apply common sense and are persistent.

Mediators use their listening skills, restatement and articulation skills, and negotiation techniques to help divorcing spouses to achieve divorce settlements that satisfy both sides. Unlike a judge, a mediator cannot make final decisions regarding the matters being debated.

How does mediation work?

With mediation, you and your future ex will essentially take part in a conference at a neutral location that both of you have agreed upon. It may take a few sessions for you both to resolve all of your divorce disputes in a manner that is mutually beneficial. A willingness to be amicable and to find common ground when tackling matters such as property division and alimony is critical when mediating a divorce.

How can mediation benefit you?

Mediation may be a wise choice for a number of reasons. For one, because mediation takes place in private sessions, you and your future ex-spouse can enjoy confidentiality — something you typically will not get when going to trial. When you decide to mediate your divorce, your settlement agreement will be the sole record of your divorce proceeding. On the contrary, at trial, everything that you and the other party discuss will be part of the public record.

Additionally, divorce mediation is generally more affordable than going to trial, and you can also expect a more timely resolution. Another major benefit of mediation is that it may help to preserve your relationship with your ex-spouse following the divorce. This is particularly invaluable if you have young children together and thus will have to co-parent for many years to come.