While some people may display actions that make them seem full of themselves, those actions are not always destructive or harmful to others. However, some people may actually be narcissists, and behaviors displayed by individuals with this type of personality could actually have damaging effects on other people, especially if children are dealing with a narcissistic parent. Because narcissists can be difficult to reason with and think of little other than themselves, they could easily cause marital issues that lead to divorce.
Though choosing to end a marriage with a narcissist may be in the family’s best interests, it can prove difficult. Because individuals with narcissistic personalities love attention, they may try to create unnecessary drama. Additionally, parents may feel concerned about the custody of their children and how much time they should have with their narcissistic other parent.
Signs of a narcissist
In the beginning, you may have seen your spouse’s narcissism as confidence or another attribute that is not necessarily negative. However, over time, you may have come to realize that your spouse only thought of him or herself. In fact, he or she may have displayed some or all of the following indicators of narcissism:
- Condescension toward others
- Exaggeration of personal accomplishments
- Envious of others
- Lack of empathy
- Sense of entitlement
- Inflated view of self-importance
- Need for constant admiration
- Obsession with appearances
When individuals show these signs, it can make marriages difficult. You may have had to deal with many arguments with your narcissistic spouse because he or she blew a disagreement out of proportion.
Narcissists and kids
Unfortunately, having a narcissistic parent can have negative impacts on children. Because a narcissist sees him or herself as perfect, he or she will likely expect the children to be just as perfect. After all, narcissists view their children as extensions of themselves. However, rather than loving the children as much as they love themselves, narcissists may ridicule, verbally abuse, attempt to control or take other actions that could harm the children. In fact, issues that children could experience due to such treatment include:
- High levels of stress
- Lack of self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
As a result, you certainly do not want your soon-to-be ex-spouse in a position where he or she could continue to inflict such potential damage. As a result, you may want to pay close attention to your child custody options.
Divorcing a narcissist
Because divorcing a narcissist can pose many issues, you may already feel overwhelmed at the idea of going through legal proceedings. However, you likely know that the effort will prove worth it in the end. As you prepare for your marriage dissolution process, you may want to gain information on how to address your particular circumstances.