If you and your spouse have recently decided that divorce is the best way forward, chances are that someone has shared an unsolicited divorce “horror story” with you. While it is true that many divorces end up being financially and emotionally costly, it is important to understand that a truly healthy divorce process is possible.
With the help of an experienced family law attorney, you and your spouse can choose to resolve your differences with minimal negativity attached to the legal aspects of your divorce. Even if you and your spouse have fundamental differences about how to divide your property or best ensure that your children’s needs are met, it is possible to divorce in healthy and productive ways.
Healthy amicable divorces
If you and your spouse have decided to divorce amicably, it will be fairly easy to progress in a healthy and productive way, as long as you remain focused on your goal of an amicable process.
Many couples begin their divorce journeys having sworn to remain amicable. However, numerous couples then become derailed by relatively petty arguments, understandable frustrations and unrealistic expectations. If you and your spouse remain committed to an amicable process in word and deed, an experienced attorney will be able to help you realize that vision.
Healthy contentious divorces
If you and your spouse are struggling with divorce-related fundamental differences, you will need to be particularly conscious about keeping your divorce process healthy and productive.
Contentious divorces tend to inspire strong negative emotions and rash decisions. However, even contentious divorces can be healthy and productive if you and your spouse are thoughtful about how you proceed.
Specifically, it is important for you both to concentrate on your priorities and to avoid petty squabbling. In addition, it is important for you to process any strong emotional challenges that you may be facing away from the negotiating table. Although it is quite human to allow anger, sadness or guilt to influence divorce negotiations, such an approach does not generally produce terribly healthy or productive outcomes.
Finally, it can be helpful to speak with your attorney about the ways in which you can keep your divorce process healthy and productive despite fundamental differences with your spouse. An experienced attorney will be able to provide critical insight into how to progress most productively.