The term “bucket list” has become such a cliché, it is likely that many people forget it came from a 2007 Rob Reiner movie starring Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson, called, appropriately enough, “The Bucket List.” The movie is about two terminally ill men who come up with a list of things they want to do before they die, then do them.
Few people have the time, money and motivation as those characters did, but it is important to think about what your life goals are. Have you always wanted to walk on the Great Wall of China? Run a marathon? Open a restaurant? Earn a Ph.D. in archaeology?
Everyone’s dreams are different. And if you ever get divorced, your personal bucket list might need major revisions. Plans you and your spouse had might now need to be accomplished solo. Or maybe you can take it as an opportunity to come up with life goals that were not possible when you were married, perhaps because your spouse was not interested.
One Huffington Post contributor was inspired by her divorce to start checking things off her goals list, instead of just talking about doing them “someday.” She started by running a marathon. Among her other new activities are learning to play guitar, writing a novel and skydiving. She also began treatments to remove a tattoo, and planned a solo Caribbean vacation.
Divorce is an ending of one phase of your life, but life does go on. A fair division of assets and child custody plan can put you on the road to success post-divorce, but it is up to you to define what success will look like.